I did the stay at home cook and clean thing for a few days before I experienced the innermost regions of my boredom. The depths of Mordor pale in comparison to the darkness that becomes me when bored. I cooked, clean, baked, cleaned again, nagged, interrogated and procrastinated my way through many misadventures in the first few days of stay at home ‘Dadom’. I even built a bookcase (of which I am immensely proud). I have never been that great at DIY so I knew on completion of this magnificent book case that I would need to fill my life with something. More miraculously, it wasn’t a shop bought, self assemble job, but a fully fledged piece of wood cut, measured and built. Check me out…Bob the Builder has some competition!!!
Thankfully, I had been asked at the beginning of the year if I would be interested in working from home. At the time I wasn’t sure if I would be doing the stay at home thing and to be quite honest I thought I would be going back to work. Events unfolded that meant I would be making that step. On deciding that I may lose my mind to boredom if I did nothing, I have started to work from home. Coincidentally, it is something relevant. I now work for a mummys and daddys job website.I am biased I know but for any UK mums and dads that are looking for work, check out these sites: Mummys Jobs & Daddys Jobs .How could I refuse something so fated to be perfect? The downside – I have to dust off the old sales skills. There’s definitely a few layers of dust there as well.
It’s been a couple of weeks and I am fitting the job around my self inflicted list of chores that I give myself to procrastinate over. I am an amazing procrastinator. I don’t deny it. If there is anything that can fill 10 mins to 5 hours of time when I should be doing something else I will find and explore it to its fullest. I think we’re all a bit like that nowadays. It’s easy to do. Whether it be a good film (or book if you’re old school), a good binge on Netflix, or even the odd Facebook or Twitter marathon.Life is designed to fragment us I suppose – a series of random useless activities that do nothing but pass the time and fill the void of boredom.
My day starts with the morning school run, which to be honest is like running the 100m final through a minefield. I thought stroppy kids didn’t turn up until teenage years. My 4 and 5 year old children have mastered lazy teenager mode already!! I am a morning person. Well, sometimes, so they must get most of their morning grumpiness of their mother. I strictly give myself an hour on a Sunday afternoon to be a grump. Everyone is the house knows it and reacts in the appropriate manner – meaning that I am given it back with interest. We are a happy family – honest! Anyway, after the school run, I do some mandatory exercise of the dogs and then myself and then do some work for a couple of hours a day. It’s not much in terms of time but it pays off – not really financially yet – but psychologically it’s worth millions. I am just one of those people that needs to fill my life with jobs and meaning. Being a dad should be enough right? Nope, I need a bit more for me. I think that is important for all of us. I love being a stay at home dad but I can’t break the stereotypical feeling of needing to contribute to the household wallet.
Working from home definitely has its benefits. The most important one is that I have a more defined routine; a routine which is also flexible. I can work around my home commitments, fit in some time to try to get fit, something which never happened before. I can feel like I have value without compromising the time I spend with the kids. In fact, I have never had so much quality time with my two little nutters. I have to fill a lot more time than I was expecting. We go to the park at the bottom of the road now much more than we ever used to, and they love it. It took them some time to get used to it. My son cried seeing me at the door when he came home on the bus one day last week – he was disappointed as he was expecting one of the grandparents that was usually there when he got of the bus. That was slightly disappointing, but expected as he doesn’t like change too much. He’s smiling most days now which is a good sign. Thank God!
My daughter on the other hand has really loved me being at home. We get so much more extra time together. I now walk her to and from school. We never had time for this, but now we have at least an hour of just me and her time everyday. I really cherish this. She told me she loved me with her whole heart yesterday. Wow!
Since working from home I have started setting myself goals each week and for the month. I think it is important to have something to work towards. It gives me a direction to point in. So I have set myself targets of getting my first client, writing 20,000 words, reading two of my set books for my open university degree, and losing another stone over the next month. Nothing wrong with being ambitious is there? So only another 18,451 words, two books, my first client and one stone to go. Targets aren’t meant to be easy are they?